Opinionated

Yes I am. But there’s a difference between being opinionated and forcing that opinion down the throat of everyone you come in contact with in the scene.

Kinkiness and specifically spanking and BDSM come in so many varieties that there are probably as many as there are people who practice them. Each person has their own take on what it is they enjoy. This one likes a light spanking, that one a hard one. That person over there likes discipline and the person next to them likes a more romantic spanking. Different strokes for as many folks.

What really gets under my skin much more than any of the million pet peeves I have are folks who are convinced their take on the scene or on spanking is somehow the superior one. They act as if they have the whole thing figured out like a science. The worst thing is that they are more than willing to let people know when something is not to their liking even if that opinion is not asked for nor wanted.

I know that people reading this blog might think that I’m guilty of the same thing and if I am, I’m a hypocrite extraordinaire. However, there’s a difference between what I’m doing and what these fools are doing. I get annoyed by things but that doesn’t mean I think there’s anything intrinsically wrong with them. For example, I hate cottage cheese – it makes me gag just to look at it. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it nor want them to stop manufacturing it, it’s just that I don’t like it and don’t want it within sight.

Same thing with kinkiness. I’m not a “romantic” spanker. The flowing head of hair on the guy riding a horse as he sweeps a woman off her feet, spanks her and then rides off – that’s not for me (the hair part especially). However, in no way do I think there’s anything wrong with liking that sort of thing if that’s what you feel is real for you. I really don’t care what turns on other people, only what turns me on.

Over and over again, I see people online (mostly men but some women, too) who feel the need to jump in and “correct” someone who is merely stating a preference or relating a story about some play session. What they are doing is somehow “wrong” or “dangerous”. These folks ooze concern in the smarmiest way because it is less about the other person’s well being than it is about their own desire to prove themselves a kind of expert and arbiter of what’s good and what’s bad.

Competitiveness? Self-esteem issues? I’m not sure what causes that sort of attitude but I don’t like it one bit.