Quick Question: Satisfaction.

I notice lots of people in the scene yearning for something — whatever that something may be. I’m sure there are many who are satisfied in their situation but I notice so many who have “this” and would rather have “that”.

Is it just the natural state for people to not want to stand still? Do people see satisfaction as a form of stagnation or is that the journey is more important than the destination? Just musing and looking for your thoughts on the matter.

I’ll add a recommended reading for this post: “That Hell-Bound Train”, Hugo Award winning short story by Robert Bloch. You can find it in collections of his short stories or in The Fantasy Hall of Fame (edited by Robert Silverberg) — look in your local library because I believe it is out of print.

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6 Responses to “Quick Question: Satisfaction.”

  1. I do think it’s human nature to do this, to want something else once we have achieved the other things in life that we want/need. For me, at least, it becomes more like “the next goal”. Ok, so I wanted and finally obtained x, y and z. I am happy with these things, yes, but what is the next thing that can add to that fulfillment? Stagnation leads to boredom, it seems. Makes what you wanted so badly before seem like routine once you have it regularly.

    Of course, when some of the previously obtained stuff gets knocked away, we tend to find ourselves back to square one with them and only then appreciating, it seems, what we *had*.

    s.

  2. For the record, I am actually one who prefers and likes predictability and routine, so tend to strive to maintain the mundane rather than add something new. 🙂

  3. My husband often says that “wanting is better than having.”

    I think that for many people the anticipation of something (an event, or a spanking) plays such a part of our fantasy lives that we start to take for granted those things that have bestowed themselves on us. At least in American society, we are encouraged to never “settle” but keep striving for something more.

    Having goals unfulfilled — because how many people can claim to be satisfied by having their goals met? — leads to frustration, and having goals met leads to ennui. We are conditioned to want a challenge, but we also want to win. The United States is a wonderful place where most people can get what they want if they work hard enough. But there is so much pressure to go beyond that; it is truly intimidating.

    I, like Sarah, tend to prefer predictability and routine, but there is a huge part of me — which yearns for the antithesis of of vanilla predictability. When we seek out the elements that are missing, we women are labeled “adventuress” whereas when men do the same, they are praised for their risk taking and seem to be judged by a different and more liberal criterion.

    I hate labels. I have never fit into any particular category, and to a certain degree I am proud of that. I’m no “rebel without a cause” but fulfillment seems like a casino game. I do think that it is possible to go through life playing the games and finding fulfillment by accident, as it were. But always, in the background, there is a little voice whispering “you’re a fool to be content with that.”

    I have a lot more to say on the subject, but I don’t want to be a real estate hog on someone else’s blog, lol.

  4. To the commenters: Although people do battle against their own contentment by seeking out newer experiences, when does it become an exercise in manufactured unhappiness? “I have this but want more” taken to the next level and over a lifetime can lead to a lot of unease no matter where a person is in life.

  5. this is so true, it’s very hard to not succumb to utter depression when we keep reaching and reaching for further satisfaction, when do we ever become satisfied? When are we content? I believe that the people who can be content with what life brings them and satisfied at thier station in life are the happiest people of all. It is a constant battle with some, and down right aggravating to the ones who must deal with them. If someone could bottle the cure for getting these overachievers to slow down they would be rich. I for one live with the most driven man I know, always push push pushing, don’t get me wrong its admirable at times, but he doesn’t know how to relax and just enjoy the fruits of his labor. I fear an early demise for him. And on the other hand you have the people who feel that life and all its abundance is “just not good enough” they are never happy, and eventually become miserable and discontented with life. So which is better, the person who pushes themselves to an early grave by thier constant battle to do better, and more, or the person who just can’t seem to be satisfied, and lives a long miserable life? I dont know, and having to live with both is a constant battle to stay positive and upbeat. I say just be happy for today, be happy for the people in your life, because nothing else really matters when you come right down to it.but then again as my mother used to say ” you can’l live on love” And my significant other says:”Money isn’t everything, but it helps” So who knows, maybe it all comes down to die rich die happy, or the man with the most toys wins. I don’t know the answer, and we could ponder it forever. One thing for sure, nothing is gonna change, so lets make the best of it.
    sorry for the rant Rad, but you struck a cord with me on this blog.
    hugs Loretta

  6. it’s something I’ve experienced not only as a spankee/er, but as an artist. Whatever piece I complete or fantastic scene I build and act out, that one thing is never enough. It’s always about the next thing, and the next thing and the thing after that, even.

    As for any possible unhappiness in this constant search, I allow myself at least a minute to enjoy what I’ve done. There’s greater unhappiness in standing still- so for me, it’s almost easier to keep going.

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