Two Years

December 23, 2006: A couple of the biggest wiseasses in or out of the spanking scene tied the knot.

I’ve spoken on multiple occasions about the circumstances surrounding our meeting and the courtship that culminated in our wedding. I will instead wax slightly poetic about what it means to be married to Sandy and what one scene marriage is like.

I think in many respects our marriage is like millions of other marriages: Taking care of a home, taking care of cats, taking care of our careers and taking care of each other. It’s a marriage of two people who, at least for my part, feel lucky to have found each other after long searches and a variety of almosts. The notion that it is a 24/7 cavalcade of spanking fun is not the case although we do have our fun. Our situation in an apartment with thin walls and nosy neighbors makes doing certain things more difficult than others. What it doesn’t interfere with is how we feel about each other and the expression of those feelings.

What a scene marriage does do for me is provide me with someone who gets me totally in the most personal and private way. I don’t have to hide my desires or sneak glances at spanking websites when the vanilla spouse is not looking. We can both be honest and open about our desires, likes and wants – a very liberating thing especially when compared with the alternative. We go to parties together, the club together, other scene events together and enjoy the entire experience as a couple. Even if we play with others (which we both do), we always know that at the end of the evening, the most important person in the room to us will be the one we’re going home with.

Certain things can get a bit dicey at times to be sure. Both of us having a variety of play partners does put a bit of pressure on a relationship – one never knows when the jealousy bug can bite. But we both do our best to be up front with each other and do our best to push down negative feelings. I want Sandy to enjoy herself when she plays and I know she wants the same for me – so we tend not to interfere and support each other when it comes to scene activity when we are apart. We certainly have absolute rules which stem from our marriage vows but otherwise we enjoy the people we both get to engage in these activities with.

I often talk about being lucky that I met her and that’s exactly how I feel. Before I met Sandy, I was resigned to being by myself for the rest of my life. Her open heart and generous nature changed those shadows of things yet to come and brought me the best Christmas present I could have hoped for.

However, it wouldn’t be Radspace if it ended on a mushy note so I’ll conclude with this. Before I met her, I never imagined that I would live a life where I tolerated a filthy feline defecating on my couch without tossing the mangy beast out of the window. Ain’t love grand.